SUNDAY SOCIAL

Happy Sunday beautiful people. It is that time again where I let you a little deeper into my life. Here is this weeks Sunday Social. Hope you enjoy:)
1. Top 3 favorite kinds of food

My all time favorite food is shrimp. I also enjoy chicken and chocolate (mostly Hershey with almond)

2. First 3 things you do in the morning

Hit the snooze button, hit the snooze button, hit the snooze button...LOL then I get up, pee (sorry tmi) brush my teeth and wash my face.

3. Last 3 things you do at night

Shower, my hair, Facebook

4. 3 TV shows you NEVER miss

My newest fav show is Scandal so I don't ever wanna miss that, I love Army Wives and Drop Dead Diva, and The Client List. I know that's more than 3 lol

5. 3 places you want to visit

Europe, Turks & Caicos, & Cabo San Lucas

6. 3 people you can always count on

My blog familia, my girl Perri and my Aunt. I can count on way more than 3. I love all my friends and familia. 

Okay enough about me it's your turn. Share your thoughts 

SS <3

HAPPY 2013

Happy New Year

Hello & Happy 2013 beautiful people,

I know we are 15 days into the new year and I am kinda late on the wishes but hey....better late than never right? 

So with that being said I thought I would write a post and just check in and see how everyone's new year has started off. Did you make resolutions? Have you kept them thus far? How did you bring in the new year? Do you have special family traditions you do?

As for me, I spent New Years Eve the same way I have done for the past 3 years, I go to church or what some may know as "Watch Night Service". It may seem boring to some but for me, I feel like I have started my year off right if I am in the house of the Lord. Okay, enough preaching :) usually I go home after service, stay up or wake up early, drive to my "family's" house and we have dinner. I say "family" because they aren't really my family, they are kind of like my adopted family. It is one of my dearest friends that I have known for quit some time before even moving to So-Cal, we met shortly after my mom passed, and we met online, when Myspace was poppin back in the day...ya'll remember that?? Well they had groups, like social groups and her and I were in one together, got to chatting and the rest is history. When I moved out here I lived about 40 minutes away from her and we finally met in person, it was like we were always sister, so she's my big sister and I am her little sister, I call her mom, mom and her dad, dad, I call her sister, sister and so on and so forth so they are like my adopted family. For about 4 or so years on and off I have been going up to Bellflower to eat at my other "sisters" house, but this year I missed out :( I didn't wake in time and some other things transpired but needless to say I felt a little left out. I was kind of sad because it is something I have done for the past 3 years consistently. 

However, another friend of mine told me she was making Gumbo and that I was invited over. She didn't know the traditions I do or anything like that, and since I missed my normal things I decided to head over there. I ate with her family and it was absolutely amazing. Delicious food, a little champagne to toast the New Year, a ton of laughs and just a great time. 

I never make resolutions because I ALWAYS break them so I got tired of talking about the same ol things. I am excited for this year and then again I am not, I have said the past 3 or so years that "this is MY year" and at the end of every year I look back and say that was foolishness it wasn't my year so this year I am done saying it. If it is it is and if it isn't it isn't. What does it mean to say this is my year? I would love to think I will experience financial freedom this year, I would be ecstatic to finally have my husband find me, I would overjoyed to have a child, I would be elated to finally be in the career I want to be in, etc. etc. Is that what constitutes it being "someones year"? Getting everything they want or hoped for? I don't know but I'm sick of saying it. We'll just have to see what's in store for me....

So enough about me, tell me how your New Years went and how things are shaping up for you. Excited about 2013?

Songstress <3

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Auld Lang Syne

SUNDAY SOCIAL

Greetings Everyone and HAPPY HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

I hope you all have had a great first week of the brand new year and that you started your new year off right....whatever that means for you :) Here is my first Sunday Social of the year 2013 with many more to come....enjoy


    1. Do you plan to change any of your eating habits in the new year? Uhh NO LOL....I do plan to do a few fasts' this year but not really changing my eating habits. Well now that I am writing this I may try and eat more, the one meal a day isn't really cutting it :( so maybe I will work on eating a little more throughout the day.   2. Any workout tips to get us back in shape after the Holidays? If you get workout tips then you must use them throughout the year, its not a "lets get in shape after the holidays and when the next holiday rolls around lets pig out again" what would be the point?? Best workout tip.....MOVE, start walking, take a walk during your lunch break, if you get an hour walk the first or last half hour of your lunch and then eat something the next half hour. Just keep moving....   3. What is your favorite thing you did over the Holidays? Spending time with friends....Since I do not have family out here or much of it in general my friends are my family, so I traveled through So Cal and visited friends, did some shopping, went to my first comedy club and other things...fun fun fun

  4. What is something you hope that you accomplish in 2013 that you did not in 2012? Master this natural hair thing, lose a few pounds, hopefully meet my guy, travel, pay off or get out of debt.    5. Name 3 things happening this year you are excited about and why. I don't necessarily have anything planned this year so I am not excited about anything really. I hope I get to visit my hometown this year and see my grandmother, I hope to travel some and possibly get to a blog convention or something like that...that would be lovely. Basically I am gonna see what God has in store for me this year and what great things are yet to come..   Okay now it is your turn, so feel free to answer the questions, and don't forget to either grab my button, share, comment, subscribe and let me know you did so I can do the same for you.
Have a beautiful Sunday!!
SS <3

WHERE OH WHERE IS MY KNIGHT IN SHINY ARMANI?!?!

Hey good people....I hope you all had a very MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!! and since today is New Years Eve, I hope you all have a fun and safe day today!

So it's been a few weeks and for 2013 I will post more like I used to. It is a personal goal of mine to at least get you new material to read once a week maybe even twice. No need to wait to the new year to start I am starting now :) so here goes...lets chat about my love life....or the lack there of

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about what could be in store for me in 2013. I came into 2012 saying this would be my year, great things would happen for me, I would finally get that husband, and finally get that career I wanted, and so on and so forth and none of that really happened. I am still single, I am not really working in the field I would love to, ohh and did I mention I was still single.....that can kind of be disheartening to a woman. Why am I still single? I live in an area that is ridiculously over populated, with all different walks of life, huge military town with people from all over the world, I attend a decent size church with a diverse mix, I get out, I do things, I sit in Starbucks, I read books, I shop at the malls, I go out to eat, and yet still NOTHING!! 

My singleness is not something I think about often so don't get it twisted. My life does not revolve around getting married or having a boo by my side. I live my life, I have fun, I do things, however with that said it is something that I find myself thinking about a lot more often this past month. Someone told me about a month ago about seeing me with a baby girl. This person described the man she saw, tall, light skinned, talked proper, was into music and some other things this person said too. I said hmmm sounds pretty good, then this person began to tell me that I already knew this particular man. I was baffled because I didn't know anyone of this description, so then I brushed it off and said that person was crazy. Shortly, after I dismissed her wacky prophetic vision, weird premonition, her physic ability or whatever it is you want to call it. I IMMEDIATELY thought of the guy that is in my "But you say he's just a friend" post. *Scooby Doo noise* HOLD DA PHONE....Could this be true? Is this the guy I am meant to be with? Nahhh couldn't be...he would never be interested in me...a guy like that? Pfft...so I push it aside and keep going about my business. But I find myself thinking about it more, I find myself thinking about him more, even having dreams....Seriously? What is really going on? Is my mind playing tricks on me? During all of this I just recently had 2 friends that I have known for 20 plus years contacting me out of the blue....male friends mind you that are professing their love for me, missing me etc. and one that I have known for a few years blowing my phone up, but then again none that I am interested in, in that manner. Why do the ones that you like don't like you but the ones you're just friends with like you as more than a friend?

In the midst of all of this....I have also been thinking about the last 5 years of my life, living in so-cal. I just celebrated my 5th anniversary of living here. Although, I absolutely love this place and want to stay here for as long as God allows, I have been tossing around the idea of..what if my husband isn't here, what if I am supposed to move? How would I know if I am supposed to move, and where would I even move to? What if I was only supposed to be here for a short time and I am supposed to travel on to the next spot and that is where I will meet my Knight in Shiny Armani? (DISCLAIMER: No I am not a gold-digger looking for some rich guy in an Armani suit lol it is just a funny on the Knight and Shining Armor that a friend of mine came up with that was cute and just stuck, also please do not think I would move for the sole purpose to find a husband these are just thoughts that are swirling around my head that I am writing out.)

Maybe this is my time of solitude, maybe I am not meant to have anyone right now, or ever. I am kinda confused on this thing and I have never been before. You know I hear stories from my girlfriends and others that say "I wasn't even looking for a man, or I didn't even want to be in a relationship, or my personal favorite, I had sworn off men completely and they all end with...and he just showed up and he was the one" CAPITAL U.G.H....Seriously, is it just that easy....okay so here is my declaration, I am NOT looking for a man, I do not want a relationship, and I am swearing off men............waiting....okay I guess it's not that easy


SS <3


Question of the day: If you are married or have a boo how were you when you met him or her? Were you looking, were you hoping, or did you completely swear off the opposite sex? Tell me your stories.....

Do you think Songstress should move....why or why not?

REALLY feelin' this song!!!!!

Alex Clare - Too Close

THIS CHRISTMAS

We all know it's that time of year where we are frantically trying to get last minute gifts, if you live where it snows some of you are hoping you have a white one of these, or some of you maybe already experiencing it, some of you may just now be putting up a tree, decorating it with lights and other colorful accessories, if you were an early bird you did that the day after Thanksgiving. Some of you have the hot chocolate brewing, the carols playing, and the seasonal movies going...Yep, you guessed it, that time of year is Christmas. As one writer put it "It's the most wonderful time of the year". 

Unfortunately, this is not the most wonderful time of the year for some families and will never ever be again. It is the time of year where families will remember losing their loved ones, their precious little angels. No Christmas holiday will ever be the same, because they won't hear the pitter patter of their children's feet running down the stairs on Christmas morning, they won't ever hear their child laugh again, or they will never hear them speak again, they'll never get to finish the height chart on the kitchen wall, they'll never get to make chocolate chip cookies to leave out for Santa, they won't be running to mom and dad to for hugs and kisses, dad can't teach his son how to play basketball and football, mom can't do her hair and show her how to be a lady. It's a sad time and unless you have been living under a rock the past few days you should all know I am referring to the horrific massacre that happened in Connecticut where 26 people were killed including 20 children and a teacher.

When I caught wind of this tragedy I am shame to say I read it on Yahoo "20 slained in massacre in Connecticut" and brushed it off thinking to myself, "another crazy person going on a killin spree, God help the families and the person that did this" and kept on moving. I still will admit I do not know a lot about the story only because it is something that is difficult for me to fathom. It is a tragedy, it's scary to imagine someone would go around killing innocent people let alone small, harmless, defensless children. My heart breaks, my heart hurts for those innocent people. I read the story of a courageous teacher that laid her life down to cover the children in hopes of saving their lives. How amazing is this woman? How many of us would have done the same? Honestly? 

So I write this post to say while you are loving on your children today, hugging them tight. While you are talking to your loved ones, seeing them over the holiday season, remember these families, take time to pray for them, or keep them in your thoughts. Find out how you can give to those family, donate or donate in your local area to those that are not spending the holidays with family, or friends. Volunteer at your local soup kitchen, take your family to go feed the homeless on the streets. Give back as much as you can because when you go....you can't take it with you, and you can't take your friends and family with you either. Spend as much time with them as you can, teach your kids any and everything you can, hug them more than you have in the past, kiss them daily, play with them always because you never know when the one you love would be ripped from your heart and your life. Speaking from a place of hurt, and a mom who has lost her child I understand what these families are feeling and my heart breaks for them. Understanding from that deep place how life will never be the same.....

Words of wisdom: Never take anyone you love for granted and love unconditionally as much as you can.

Wishing you and your family a beautiful Christmas and a wonderful New Year!!

SS <3  

 

SUNDAY SOCIAL

     Hola great people!   I know I know I know. I am slacking big time. I can't even get the "Sunday" Social out on Sunday lol.. Geez, well I really wanted to do this post so here it goes. Just pretend you're reading it on Sunday. :)     1. What is the wallpaper on your cell phone? My is locked so when you first push the button to turn it on you'll see two dolphins jumping out of the water getting ready to dive back into the water. Something resembling this:

  I absolutely LOVE dolphins so that's why I have that. Then when you get to my phones home screen I have a photo of two hearts, that have angel wings behind them and a banner going across that says "TRUST"   2. What do you keep beside your bed? I have a little table with my heater, my laptop, desk lamp, cell phone when not in use, lotion, deodorant, and my word search book and a pen .   3. What is your least favorite chore? I think I would have to say dishes, or cleaning the bathroom. They run neck and neck. I despise doing the dishes and cleaning the bathroom.   4. If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be? The person before me posted getting out of bed. I would have to agree LOL but my answer would be, and up until three days ago I probably wouldn't have been saying this but if I could eliminate doing my hair in the morning I would. I hate having to get up earlier than I want to just so I can make sure my hair is done and presentable. When I had my hair braided and twisted I didn't have to really worry about it because it was already done for me....oh the joys of being a chick lol   5. What do you do to vent anger? Usually I cry, when I am REALLY upset the only thing I can do is cry. I don't cuss, if I need to scream I'll do that to, and then vent to a friend.   6. What is your favorite holiday of the year and why? Does my birthday count? LOL okay in all seriousness I LOVE Thanksgiving, I would have to say that is my all time favorite holiday. I love to cook, I love to share what I have cooked with people that I love and care about. I love inviting people over and giving back, especially to those that are like me and don't have family here. it's an absolutely GREAT holiday.   SS <3   Your turn!

SUNDAY SOCIAL

WOW!!!!! Can you believe it has been more than a month since my last post???? Have you guys missed me?? I can definitely say I have missed you. So much has happened during my time away, some good some okay but nothing bad so thats a plus. I figured since I am at home, sick in bed I kick things off again with a Sunday Social. More exciting post to come soon, but for now here goes....

1. Favorite Holiday Movies/TV Specials? I love the movie "This Christmas" I actually like a lot of different Christmas movies, my fav as a kid was Miracle on 34th street. My mom and I used to watch it every year. But for now we'll stick with "This Christmas" 

2. Do you do any volunteering during the holidays if so what? If not what would you do? I actually volunteer all year long through my church, so I don't usually do anything differently outside of that, however I have in the past volunteered feeding the homeless at the soup kitchen, which is a very humbling and rewarding experience.   3. Favorite toy received as a child for the holidays? I remember so many toys I received as a child, my Teddy Ruxpin

My skip it toy...AWESOME 

Those were the good day!! I have so many others too....

    4. What was your must have item in high school for the holidays? Cell phone and a car of course!   5. Item you begged for the most and never got? Hmmm I can't really think of anything, if I wanted it I would ask for it and if I didn't get it right away I would eventually end up getting it :)   6. What do you do on Christmas Eve?  As a kid I would go to bed early and get up early, as a teenager and now an adult I would stay up, wrap gifts with my mom when she was alive, and we would stay up and talk all night and watch movies. Now, I don't really do anything, maybe when I have a family of my own I will start a new tradition. That's it for today's Sunday Social. I am glad to be back and hope to share things with you again on a more regular consistent basis. Love and miss you guys so much and thank you for those that reached out to make sure I was okay, thank you for your support. SS <3