Monday, December 31, 2012


Hey good people....I hope you all had a very MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!! and since today is New Years Eve, I hope you all have a fun and safe day today!

So it's been a few weeks and for 2013 I will post more like I used to. It is a personal goal of mine to at least get you new material to read once a week maybe even twice. No need to wait to the new year to start I am starting now :) so here goes...lets chat about my love life....or the lack there of

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about what could be in store for me in 2013. I came into 2012 saying this would be my year, great things would happen for me, I would finally get that husband, and finally get that career I wanted, and so on and so forth and none of that really happened. I am still single, I am not really working in the field I would love to, ohh and did I mention I was still single.....that can kind of be disheartening to a woman. Why am I still single? I live in an area that is ridiculously over populated, with all different walks of life, huge military town with people from all over the world, I attend a decent size church with a diverse mix, I get out, I do things, I sit in Starbucks, I read books, I shop at the malls, I go out to eat, and yet still NOTHING!! 

My singleness is not something I think about often so don't get it twisted. My life does not revolve around getting married or having a boo by my side. I live my life, I have fun, I do things, however with that said it is something that I find myself thinking about a lot more often this past month. Someone told me about a month ago about seeing me with a baby girl. This person described the man she saw, tall, light skinned, talked proper, was into music and some other things this person said too. I said hmmm sounds pretty good, then this person began to tell me that I already knew this particular man. I was baffled because I didn't know anyone of this description, so then I brushed it off and said that person was crazy. Shortly, after I dismissed her wacky prophetic vision, weird premonition, her physic ability or whatever it is you want to call it. I IMMEDIATELY thought of the guy that is in my "But you say he's just a friend" post. *Scooby Doo noise* HOLD DA PHONE....Could this be true? Is this the guy I am meant to be with? Nahhh couldn't be...he would never be interested in me...a guy like that? I push it aside and keep going about my business. But I find myself thinking about it more, I find myself thinking about him more, even having dreams....Seriously? What is really going on? Is my mind playing tricks on me? During all of this I just recently had 2 friends that I have known for 20 plus years contacting me out of the blue....male friends mind you that are professing their love for me, missing me etc. and one that I have known for a few years blowing my phone up, but then again none that I am interested in, in that manner. Why do the ones that you like don't like you but the ones you're just friends with like you as more than a friend?

In the midst of all of this....I have also been thinking about the last 5 years of my life, living in so-cal. I just celebrated my 5th anniversary of living here. Although, I absolutely love this place and want to stay here for as long as God allows, I have been tossing around the idea of..what if my husband isn't here, what if I am supposed to move? How would I know if I am supposed to move, and where would I even move to? What if I was only supposed to be here for a short time and I am supposed to travel on to the next spot and that is where I will meet my Knight in Shiny Armani? (DISCLAIMER: No I am not a gold-digger looking for some rich guy in an Armani suit lol it is just a funny on the Knight and Shining Armor that a friend of mine came up with that was cute and just stuck, also please do not think I would move for the sole purpose to find a husband these are just thoughts that are swirling around my head that I am writing out.)

Maybe this is my time of solitude, maybe I am not meant to have anyone right now, or ever. I am kinda confused on this thing and I have never been before. You know I hear stories from my girlfriends and others that say "I wasn't even looking for a man, or I didn't even want to be in a relationship, or my personal favorite, I had sworn off men completely and they all end with...and he just showed up and he was the one" CAPITAL U.G.H....Seriously, is it just that easy....okay so here is my declaration, I am NOT looking for a man, I do not want a relationship, and I am swearing off men............waiting....okay I guess it's not that easy

SS <3

Question of the day: If you are married or have a boo how were you when you met him or her? Were you looking, were you hoping, or did you completely swear off the opposite sex? Tell me your stories.....

Do you think Songstress should move....why or why not?

REALLY feelin' this song!!!!!

Wednesday, December 19, 2012


We all know it's that time of year where we are frantically trying to get last minute gifts, if you live where it snows some of you are hoping you have a white one of these, or some of you maybe already experiencing it, some of you may just now be putting up a tree, decorating it with lights and other colorful accessories, if you were an early bird you did that the day after Thanksgiving. Some of you have the hot chocolate brewing, the carols playing, and the seasonal movies going...Yep, you guessed it, that time of year is Christmas. As one writer put it "It's the most wonderful time of the year". 

Unfortunately, this is not the most wonderful time of the year for some families and will never ever be again. It is the time of year where families will remember losing their loved ones, their precious little angels. No Christmas holiday will ever be the same, because they won't hear the pitter patter of their children's feet running down the stairs on Christmas morning, they won't ever hear their child laugh again, or they will never hear them speak again, they'll never get to finish the height chart on the kitchen wall, they'll never get to make chocolate chip cookies to leave out for Santa, they won't be running to mom and dad to for hugs and kisses, dad can't teach his son how to play basketball and football, mom can't do her hair and show her how to be a lady. It's a sad time and unless you have been living under a rock the past few days you should all know I am referring to the horrific massacre that happened in Connecticut where 26 people were killed including 20 children and a teacher.

When I caught wind of this tragedy I am shame to say I read it on Yahoo "20 slained in massacre in Connecticut" and brushed it off thinking to myself, "another crazy person going on a killin spree, God help the families and the person that did this" and kept on moving. I still will admit I do not know a lot about the story only because it is something that is difficult for me to fathom. It is a tragedy, it's scary to imagine someone would go around killing innocent people let alone small, harmless, defensless children. My heart breaks, my heart hurts for those innocent people. I read the story of a courageous teacher that laid her life down to cover the children in hopes of saving their lives. How amazing is this woman? How many of us would have done the same? Honestly? 

So I write this post to say while you are loving on your children today, hugging them tight. While you are talking to your loved ones, seeing them over the holiday season, remember these families, take time to pray for them, or keep them in your thoughts. Find out how you can give to those family, donate or donate in your local area to those that are not spending the holidays with family, or friends. Volunteer at your local soup kitchen, take your family to go feed the homeless on the streets. Give back as much as you can because when you can't take it with you, and you can't take your friends and family with you either. Spend as much time with them as you can, teach your kids any and everything you can, hug them more than you have in the past, kiss them daily, play with them always because you never know when the one you love would be ripped from your heart and your life. Speaking from a place of hurt, and a mom who has lost her child I understand what these families are feeling and my heart breaks for them. Understanding from that deep place how life will never be the same.....

Words of wisdom: Never take anyone you love for granted and love unconditionally as much as you can.

Wishing you and your family a beautiful Christmas and a wonderful New Year!!

SS <3  


Monday, December 17, 2012


 Hola great people!
I know I know I know. I am slacking big time. I can't even get the "Sunday" Social out on Sunday lol.. Geez, well I really wanted to do this post so here it goes. Just pretend you're reading it on Sunday. :)
1. What is the wallpaper on your cell phone?
My is locked so when you first push the button to turn it on you'll see two dolphins jumping out of the water getting ready to dive back into the water. Something resembling this:
I absolutely LOVE dolphins so that's why I have that. Then when you get to my phones home screen I have a photo of two hearts, that have angel wings behind them and a banner going across that says "TRUST"
2. What do you keep beside your bed?
I have a little table with my heater, my laptop, desk lamp, cell phone when not in use, lotion, deodorant, and my word search book and a pen .
3. What is your least favorite chore?
I think I would have to say dishes, or cleaning the bathroom. They run neck and neck. I despise doing the dishes and cleaning the bathroom.
4. If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be?
The person before me posted getting out of bed. I would have to agree LOL but my answer would be, and up until three days ago I probably wouldn't have been saying this but if I could eliminate doing my hair in the morning I would. I hate having to get up earlier than I want to just so I can make sure my hair is done and presentable. When I had my hair braided and twisted I didn't have to really worry about it because it was already done for me....oh the joys of being a chick lol
5. What do you do to vent anger?
Usually I cry, when I am REALLY upset the only thing I can do is cry. I don't cuss, if I need to scream I'll do that to, and then vent to a friend.
6. What is your favorite holiday of the year and why?
Does my birthday count? LOL okay in all seriousness I LOVE Thanksgiving, I would have to say that is my all time favorite holiday. I love to cook, I love to share what I have cooked with people that I love and care about. I love inviting people over and giving back, especially to those that are like me and don't have family here. it's an absolutely GREAT holiday.
SS <3
Your turn!

Sunday, December 9, 2012


WOW!!!!! Can you believe it has been more than a month since my last post???? Have you guys missed me?? I can definitely say I have missed you. So much has happened during my time away, some good some okay but nothing bad so thats a plus. I figured since I am at home, sick in bed I kick things off again with a Sunday Social. More exciting post to come soon, but for now here goes....

1. Favorite Holiday Movies/TV Specials?
I love the movie "This Christmas" I actually like a lot of different Christmas movies, my fav as a kid was Miracle on 34th street. My mom and I used to watch it every year. But for now we'll stick with "This Christmas" 

2. Do you do any volunteering during the holidays if so what? If not what would you do?
I actually volunteer all year long through my church, so I don't usually do anything differently outside of that, however I have in the past volunteered feeding the homeless at the soup kitchen, which is a very humbling and rewarding experience.
3. Favorite toy received as a child for the holidays?
I remember so many toys I received as a child, my Teddy Ruxpin

My skip it toy...AWESOME 

Those were the good day!! I have so many others too....
4. What was your must have item in high school for the holidays?
Cell phone and a car of course!
5. Item you begged for the most and never got?
Hmmm I can't really think of anything, if I wanted it I would ask for it and if I didn't get it right away I would eventually end up getting it :)
6. What do you do on Christmas Eve? 
As a kid I would go to bed early and get up early, as a teenager and now an adult I would stay up, wrap gifts with my mom when she was alive, and we would stay up and talk all night and watch movies. Now, I don't really do anything, maybe when I have a family of my own I will start a new tradition.
That's it for today's Sunday Social. I am glad to be back and hope to share things with you again on a more regular consistent basis. Love and miss you guys so much and thank you for those that reached out to make sure I was okay, thank you for your support.
SS <3