Wednesday, October 24, 2012

I AM NOT MY HAIR!!

Good evening beautiful people. I am writing this much awaited and very anticipated post. I am EXTREMELY nervous about this but what better time then the present. So strap in and lets go for a ride through my hair journey....

Alright so I am a mixed female and for as long as I can remember I used to wear my natural hair. When I was a young girl, I rocked the pig tails, and the cornrows. When Jheri curls were out yes I rocked that too. Then I went to relaxers and for those that do not know what a relaxer is, it is the opposite of a perm for Caucasian women. A perm for them is to curl their hair and a relaxer for us is to straighten our hair. I used to get my hair relaxed every 4-6 weeks with touch ups in between time. I did this for years but in the summer I would rock braids. I also wished I had long luxurious hair when I was younger. I remember when I was a little girl I would throw a towel on my head and a headband to keep it in place and swing my "hair" around. I was never the one to appreciate or love MY hair. In fact I hated it, I hated people seeing the real me. If it was time to get my hair done I would take whatever I had in at the time down, wash it and go the next day to get it redone. To this day I am still that way, however I have had a breaking point. Today I am revealing ME and all my naturalness. Usually the only people that see my hair is myself and whomever is doing it at the time. I continuously get comments about how my hair is so long, so thick so beautiful etc etc but I have yet to believe it. My head was filled with your hair is so nappy and so ugly by my peers when I was younger, I don't see how it's any different now.....but in saying that I am about to embark on a new journey and a new year since my birthday is coming up in two days this is my "coming out" party LOL



Lately, I have realized that however I am in this moment I am beautiful, I was beautifully, fearfully and wonderfully made and I need to embrace that. So this is me embracing it. I decided to show my hair in its many states. My real natural, grown from my head state LOL. I have done the weaves, the braids, the twist, and everything in between. Although I am showing this I would like to say this is a HUGE deal for me. I did end up getting my hair done today in a twist style but regardless of me doing that I feel accomplished that I am showing you all the real ME....

For the last SEVERAL years my hair has looked like this
Small Micro Braids


And I even change up the color








I wore this style for years so just recently about 3-4 months ago I decided to change it up. Now I used to wear whats called "Kinky Twist" all the time back in Michigan but since I have lived in Cali I have yet to get them done and one day I decided to do something different and this is what I just took out and had replaced, except I replaced it with a different color same style 
My kinky twist

So after taking these twist out, I washed my hair thoroughly and conditioned it, this is what my hair looks like curly......brace ya selves lol
There it is..nice tight coily curls. It is not nappy I can rake my fingers through it just fine and a comb too lol


All blown out!! Who knew there was that much hair from looking at those tight coils 

So from there I decided to flat iron it....first time putting heat like that in my head in well over a few years. Sometimes I don't even blow dry I just comb out and let it air dry.

Almost done

Final product!! Unfortunately I couldn't take a pic of the back because I'm not that talented lol and I pulled it over toward one side because I was feeling myself I thought I was CUTE haha


So during this process it was fun, yet exhausting. It was freeing and liberating. It was refreshing to know, my hair is apart of me. Its coily texture is cute to some, ugly to others but who cares? Because I am not my hair, I am not your expectations either....

SS <3

Thanks for reading...comments, shares, and subscribers are ALWAYS welcomed.


            India Arie I am not my hair


P.S. While getting my hair done today my beautician found....
A GRAY HAIR!!!!

So let me just say..finding this two days before you are turning another year OLDER is NOT okay lol. I'm old.....

P.S.S. If you look closely you can see the new color that was twisted into my hair. Pics of that coming soon. 

17 comments:

  1. Very cool seeing the transition over the years.
    Cute styles everytime!

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  2. You go Lady! You are beautiful, you are strong and your hair is gorgeous! Flaunt what your momma made you. :)

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  3. I love all of your looks, you are absolutely beautiful, and your natural hair is just as beautiful if not more than the braids and other looks! <3

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    1. Aww you are way too kind :) thank you so much for that beautiful comment

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  4. I had no idea about the natural hair movement till I went to Niche Mommy and Tamara of Natural Hair Rules spoke about her niche and then I went to Blogalicious and noticed SO MANY heads of natural hair, it was amazing! It made me think about my thinning hair (I was born with superfine hair) and how I always felt inadequate and even tried on wigs last year but I'm over it, I love myself and I am not my hair either. LOVE LOVE this post!!! More power to you!!!

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    1. The natural hair movement has definitely evolved over the past few years. I have been natural for so long but I keep my hair in whats considered "protective styles" But I am so happy that you let the wigs go and you embraced you. Continue to embrace all your beauty. Thanks for your comments & support Xenia

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  5. As a caucasian woman I always hated the fact that my hair was so fine and smooth. People think that white women HAVE to wear their natural hair and when they don't they try to hide it. I love extentions and wigs. I wish my hair was thicker and coarser so it could hold braids for longer than about three days without getting fuzzy. I loved my hair when I dreaded it up and caught so much flack because it was a "black" hairstyle. I love your natural hair blown out though. There's something so sexy and powerful about a fro. Too cute.

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    1. Thank you so much Dani and don't worry about the naysayers they'll always be out there. Girl you rock your extensions, wigs, and dreads. Do what makes you happy love. Thanks for you comment:)

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  6. I love your hair natural! the blown out one is my favorite - you are so pretty! Thanks for stopping by my blog :)
    xoxo,
    Nikki at www.bedazzlesafterdark.com

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  7. I love your fro thank you again for sharing this with me! I loved seeing the process and please the gray is only going to grow EMBRACE IT!

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    1. LOL leave it to you to be the only one that commented about my gray...haha love ya Ruby and thank you for being with me during the process.

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  8. You are LOVELY in any hairstyle you pls....you make your personality shine thru!!!

    REBECCA
    www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

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    1. Thank you so much Rebecca and thank you for coming back and checking out my blog :)

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  9. Dropping by to say hi! Love your hair! I went natural four years ago and I LOVE it! I enjoy the many different ways I can wear it. You're so right, it is definitely LIBERATING! Oh, and "Happy Belated Birthday'!

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